In my relatively short life I have never had this happen to me. It’s not necessarily the case that I live a sheltered life just that I don’t have experienced this before. I live in England regardless of what you might hear it is a place filled with gentlemanly guys. I also come from the hip hop world where going out with the same girl is a no –no. look it was so frowned upon that R Kellly and Usher made a song about it. By the by that’s R Kelly. Even talking about women is a no-no. unless we don’t hold her up to much. We rarely discuss these things. I know some great, amazing, flirtatious women and will never want or hear anything about them sexually due to them being held in high regard. That is the status which all women think men have but we don’t have that almost mythical position. When women gossip there are rarely any repercussions as opposed to men.
The other day I met some acquaintances, we chatted cordially and then we had a chat about our mutual friend. This is the second time we have had that specific chat. It didn’t hit me what he was talking about the first time and to be honest I may be wrong. But im sure he was talking about our mutual friend sexually.
I watch the guy slowly slur his words as if his tongue is still playing with her anatomy. The continued insistence that she is a good girl is hidden behind the smug charm. The idea that all of a sudden the mere mention of the name sends the guy into his sexual masturbation creeps me out. His eyes begin to flicker as if the reel of film in the projector in his mind is firing up. Wait, there he goes to get the popcorn and lube.
This creeps me out, what the fuck am I supposed to say? I don’t and wouldn’t indulge in such brazen ideal of mental masturbation in front of others. Maybe its just a cultural thing because we don’t do that shit where I’m from. The guy obviously knows where my loyalties lie so why the fuck would you do that to me. Some of you might think oh you prude you should be proud of your friend for leaving that mark. Yeah well bully for you but twice this has happened and im not that comfortable hearing this shit. Subversiveness when talking about my friends isn’t appreciated. Tell me straight or don’t tell me at all.
This lends credence to the fact that its pretty cumbersome to friends with women. Women that you have hooked up with and those you haven’t is the school of thought most men have and im beginning to reason with them. I have enough great female friends that it makes no real sense to add anymore. If it happens it happens but im cool de la on the female friends front. Im a lucky dude, I just don’t want some punk messing with those I care about.
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